Wedding Week Checklist

It’s “Wedding Week”!  Courtney and John will marry next Saturday, October 18th.  Emotions and anxiety often run ramped during this week.   A good verse to remember is Philippians 4:13, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Wedding Bible for Ringbearer  #GEinc  by Grace Elizabeth's

This is our third wedding in just over 3 years (3 daughters) and I must say they have all been a joy but they also have been stressful at some point during the planning stage.  With this wedding my anxiety was experienced a couple of weeks ago, 2 1/2 weeks before the wedding.  Let’s just say I had a melt down day.  I had no sleep the night before and we were facing some unexpected complications which seemed unfixable.  After fretting most of the day I finally resolved that my focus was wrong.  Human expectations sometimes don’t line up with the desires of God’s heart and I had to examine my own heart to find out what I was focusing on.  Of course we want everything to be perfect: the wedding dress, the bridal party clothing, the flowers, the food, the location, etc.  Yes, God does love beautiful things and wants us to enjoy them. However they are not the most important thing at a wedding.  My daughter is about to walk down that aisle and marry her best friend.  A man who loves her but more importantly loves Jesus and is excited to share Him with anyone and everyone who will listen.  These two have been brought together by divine appointment and are thrilled to not only express their love for each other but also for Jesus. This day is going to be a celebration of a man and woman declaring their covenant marriage before family, friends and God.

If you are interested in reading more about God’s plan for marriage, Focus on the Family, sporting the tag line “Helping Families Thrive,” has good articles to help understand God as the master designer of marriage.  Did you know that marriage is created out of divine order? It’s based on a covenant relationship and marriage reflects our relationships with God and truly has a greater impact in our lives than many have assumed. View articles

Below is the “Wedding Week Checklist” that we are following.  Of course there are many more small details not listed but it is a good outline of what needs done.  I had an opportunity to spend several hours with a friend today and she commented how calm I seemed with the wedding in 5 days.  Today – yes she is right.  My goal, which I reached, was to get everything done before this “last week” except those last minute tasks.  I want to spend the next few days pondering and praying about my daughter’s marriage and not panic about it.  Now will I be calm on Friday and Saturday – hum?

Have you had a daughter or son get married?  Tell me one sweet thing you cherish about that day…



People Follow-up

  • Follow-up with people about their jobs and responsibilities.  Ask if they have any questions.


  • Review all items related to the ceremony.  Make final purchases and finish any unfinished projects.
  • Pick up wedding clothes
    • Wedding dress and accessories
    • Bridesmaid dresses
    • Tuxedos
  • Pick-up rented wedding items
  • Decorate sanctuary, guest book table, gift table, other


  • Confirm entertainment & emcee
  • Confirm arrangements for Cake, food and drink delivery, setup and serving
  • Pick-up rented wedding items
  • Decorate reception hall


  • Food plan for Wedding day luncheon (Wedding Party, Parents and Grand Parents)
  • Make any final payments for services or items


  • Friday
    • Decorate reception hall
    • Decorate church
    • Rehearsal
    • Rehearsal dinner
    • Bachelor and bachelorette parties
  • Saturday
    • Hair appointments, make-up
    • Dressing
    • Bridal bouquets, corsages & boutonnieres
    • Photos
    • Luncheon (Wedding Party, Parents and Grand Parents)
    • Wedding ceremony
    • Reception
    • Cleanup – church & reception hall


Celebrating His plan for marriage!

Sonya Kay

2 thoughts on “Wedding Week Checklist

  1. Sonya, enjoy just watching her watch him. During Kaile and Robert’s wedding pics taken beforehand the wedding dress ended up getting a long grease mark right across the front of her dress. Needless to say, I was panicked and upset. I had lost the focus of what was truly important. Our lovely beautiful bride was calm and not at all fazed by all our fuss. She looked me in the eye and calmly told me that what really mattered that she was going to marry her best friend and she didn’t care if the dress was dirty. She kept her eyes on his eyes and also reminded me that it was March 29th in NE and God had given us a beautiful day for an outside wedding which we had prayed about! That’s what’s important that God gets the glory for her calm, their love and a gorgeous unusual spring day!

    1. mm

      Great memory Tracy! You have raised a wise woman! Isn’t it such a blessing to see them grow up and watch them transfer their reliance on us as parents to a faith and trust in Christ for this new chapter in their lives – marriage. Yes, as mamas it is hard to let them go with open hands 🙂 God is good and sufficient beyond what we are able. On a very personal note – I have loved seeing all the updates from you and your family over the cyber connections. Some curse it but I am thankful that it allows me to keep in touch with dear friends who no longer live near me.

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